Many of us have very active lifestyles, and often enough we forget to reflect upon the reasons behind our actions, and sometimes, we have no idea what we're doing, everything is done for the sake of "doing it". It becomes a routine, a monotonous series of motions. I'd like to take this opportunity to clarify and give definitions to some daily tasks, restore the purpose if you like, for those who may have "lost it" along the way.
Lets start with blogging. What is a blog?
blog
n : a shared on-line journal where people can post diary entries about their personal experiences and hobbies
Based on the above definition, it is an online diary/journal, a medium for people to log in events and personal experiences. Of course, the author is entitled to write whatever he/she wants to write but one would think it would have to be something interesting or informative, or else why bother to put it online for the world to see.
In my opinion, it is not a medium for conveying personal messages to any one individual, especially if its of a malicious nature, e-mails were intended for this purpose, phones were intended for this purpose, letters are also commonly used to carry out the task... but blogs? UNLESS... the author of the blog is afraid of facing up to the consequences or repurcussions which may ensue. In my humble opinion, its no different to an anonymous letter, written to incur distress to the recipient... a cowardly act.
These people are often insecure and at times delusional.
de·lu·sion
n : A false belief or opinion: labored under the delusion that success was at hand.
Now I'm no psychologist, but in my previous experiences with such people, they have several key characteristics. One of which is an innate ability to exude a state of anal-lity. This peculiar word originates from the root word - anal.
a·nal
n : Indicating personality traits that originated during toilet training and are distinguished as anal-expulsive or anal-retentive.
I think the key word in the definition above is "anal- retentive", in layman terms, "something up your arse!" Colloquially, this term "anal" is commonly used to describe individuals who are easily irritable and often unstable in nature. Friends and loved ones usually become the victims of unprovoked attacks (often verbal, but other forms are not uncommon) and endure the onslaught despite being ignorant to the inherent cause of these nonsensical exhibitions of childishness. The "victims" are what I call the emotional punching bags.
punching bag
n : a person on whom another person vents their anger; "he resigned because his boss used him as a punching bag"
Characteristic of a punching bag, these victims do no retaliate, but accept their fate. These punching bag people are often patient and accomodating individuals, who bear no grudges and put their friends well being above their own. Why do they allow this to happen? Because they know they're only a medium for the agressor (aka delusional, unstable, anal-retentive person) to vent their anger. Often these people (agressor) have underlying issues and problems in their lives in which have yet to be dealt with. They are also narrow minded and may shy away from confrontations. But if in a situation where confrontation is unavoidable, incomprehensible words and violent outbursts destroy any chance of resolution. This is seen as a defense mechanism, employed by the weak in mind.
All this may sound familiar to some, but let me say, friends come and go, but good friends are hard to come by. I've had people stick by me when I did things I've not been proud of, and these people are my good friends. They overlook my inadequacies and accept me for who I am. In the same way, I would sacrifice a limb (and in this I mean a little toe) for my good friends. My intent is and always has been pure and I hope those around me realise that. Punch me, kick me - I will bear no grudge. Scorn me, disappoint me - I will forget. But don't turn your back on me - a good friend I can't afford to lose.
This post may not be interesting or informative, but who gives a shit, its my blog remember *grin*..... but i promise I shall refrain from digressing too much in my next post. Infact, it will be informative - "How to slam the door properly when walking away in an angry fit"
Thats all I have to say. *quivers*
